How to Encourage Good Behavior in Children

April, she is smart. (I know most of the children is smart) Somehow, I still find her smart with my personal standard. In fact, a lot of people who met and talked to her before have also acknowledged that.
She can tell all shapes and colors at age of 2. After joining the MRC 3Q Mandarin in Jan 07, and Super Memory Map English in Jun 07, she is now recognized A-Z and lots of Chinese characters. Her teachers appraised that she is a very fast learner and she has very good concentration. However, teachers also said that she is very soft spoken, coward and shy. I couldn't believe that as she is so hyperactive, talkative and naughty at home.

I'm happy and satisfied with April's school performance. Initially, she was refused to go to school as well. After a numerous attempts of both the teacher and myself, at the end, April is happily going to school on Wednesday, Thursday and Saturday. Besides, she is also making new friends there. I'm very proud of her, when she told me her friends' names, and shared me what happened at school.

No one is perfect, same here for April. April is not willing to greet friends, teachers, relatives and neighbours. Although I have tried to remind and persuade her to greet, she is still reluctant to open her mouth when she met people other than us and grandparents. I felt so disappointed, as others may feel that I don't coach my daughter to have good behavior.

Here I found a very useful link on how to encourage good behavior in children.

Quoted from the above link for those who read my blog:

Sometimes it is hard for parents to remember that discipline is about encouraging good behavior through logical punishment. It is easy to get frustrated when your child does not exhibit the behavior you would prefer. Keeping your cool and following these steps can help your child reveal his good side.
Difficulty: Moderately Easy
Step One
Set clear boundaries for your child and let him know ahead of time what is expected of him.

Step Two
Stay calm, firm and consistent when disciplining and setting boundaries.

Step Three
Remember that each child has different temperaments and developmental styles. Some children respond well to verbal praise while others respond better to rewards like stickers or extra time on the computer.

Step Four
Locate factors that may prevent good behavior like jealousy, stress or learning and behavioral disorders. Try to remove what causes these factors or seek professional help to cope with them.

Step Five
Praise good behavior by providing positive reinforcement. Most children want to receive praise. If they know you will praise their good behavior, then they are more likely to follow the boundaries set for them.

Step Six
Offer rewards or incentives when you see your child exhibiting good behavior.

Step Seven
Teach your child about the natural and logical consequences of her actions. Natural consequences are like cause and effect such as if you play rough with a toy it will break. Logical consequences are based on wrong choices such as when you take away her toys because she wouldn't put them away.

Tips & Warnings
If you know your child has trouble with certain locations like going to the grocery store, then plan ahead. Get him involved by giving him his own list of items to find. Or if he hates putting away his toys, then make a game out of it by having a race to see who can put them away the fastest.

Remember that disciplining and punishing a child for inappropriate actions is an important part of parenting. Parents must teach children to think for themselves, make good decisions, recognize right from wrong, respect other people and exhibit appropriate behavior.

Correct your child's poor behavior without criticizing or belittling her as a person.
In most cases, good behavior is caught not taught. You must lead by example in showing good behaviors of your own.

Do not use bribes. Bribes are giving a child a treat in advance and hoping they will show good behavior.

Do not expect perfection. Your child is in a learning process and needs your help to know how to show good behaviors

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