A memo from your child

15:49 Yannie 0 Comments

1. Don't spoil me...
I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I'm only testing you.

2. Don't be afraid to be firm with me...
I prefer it - it makes me feel secure.

3. Don't let me form bad habits...
I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.

4. Don't make me feel smaller than I am...
It only makes me behave stupidly big.

5. Don't correct me in front of people, if you can help it...
I'll take much moer notice if you talk quietly with me, and in private.

6. Don't make me feel my mistakes are sins...
It upsets my sense of values.

7. Don't be upset when I say 'I hate you!'...
It isn't you I hate, but your power to thwart me.

8. Don't be protect me from consequences...
I need to learn the painful way sometimes.

9. Don't take too much notice of my small ailments...
I am quite capable of trading on them.

10. Don't nag...
If you do, I will have to protect myself by appearing to be deaf.

11. Don't make rash promises...
Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.

12. Don't forget that I can't eplain myself as well as I should like to...
That is why I'm not always very accurate.

13. Don't tax my honesty too much...
I am easily frightened into telling lies.

14. Don't be inconsistent...
That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.

15. Don't put me off when I ask questions...
If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.

16. Don't tell me my fears are silly...
They are terribly real to me and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.

17. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible...
It gives me too great a shock when I discover you are neither.

18. Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of understanding and love...
...but I don't really need to tell you that, do I?

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