2007-08-28

讓身體好好排毒

■ 肝的致命傷
1. 晚睡晚起為最大致命傷。(原因如下)
2. 早上不排便。
3. 暴飲暴食。
4. 不吃早餐 → 透支。
5. 藥物。
6. 防腐劑、添加物、色素、人工甘味(如:沙茶醬)。
7. 不當的油脂(如:沙拉油為不穩定油),烹調盡量少用油,即便是好油,如:橄欖油。疲倦時不吃油炸物,若要吃趁精神好時吃。
8. 不生食(完全熟食)亦不利肝。青菜生吃或煮三分或五分熟,炒過的青菜當天吃完,不要隔夜吃。
9. 錯誤的價值觀,只追求卓越,欠缺和平、博愛。
10. 急躁。要做到,完全不需花錢,只要注意起居與飲食習慣的調整。食療加上時療,讓身體在正確的時間內主動進行吸收與排毒的動作。原因:
□ 晚上9-11點為免疫系統(淋巴)排毒時間,此段時間應安靜或聽音樂,夫妻同房應排在此時,不應在11點之後(理由見後)要不便先睡一覺,天亮再來。倘若此時,作母親的仍處於焦慮狀態,如洗碗盤、盯孩子功課,對健康不利。
□ 晚間11-凌晨1點,肝的排毒,需在熟睡中進行。
□ 凌晨1-3點,膽的排毒亦同。
□ 凌晨3-5點,肺的排毒,此即為何咳嗽的人在這段時間咳得最劇烈;因排毒動作已走到肺經,不應用止咳藥,以免抑制廢積物的排除。
□ 凌晨5-7點,大腸的排毒,應上廁所排便。
□ 凌晨7-9點,小腸大量吸收營養的時段,應吃早餐。療病者最好早吃,在6點半前,養生者在7點半前,不吃早餐者應改變習慣,即使拖到9、
10點吃都比不吃好。
晚睡晚起混亂整個排毒過程;另外,半夜至凌晨4點為脊椎造血時段,必須熟睡,不宜熬夜。

2007-08-27

Pink Bear


April's favorite mate is the pink teddy bear. We named it as Pink Bear. She first saw Pink Bear when she was only 6 months old. I bought it at RM16 as her very first toy.
April used to to hug and sleep with Pink Bear every night. Due to her nose allergy, we removed all the toys with fur from bed now. Besides I bougth a similar dress for Pink Bear and April.
After wearing the dress, Pink Bear has less surface which can contact with April now.

2007-08-22

How to stop Sibling Rivalry


I feel very sorry to May for not bringing her to Genting trip in July, and also not bringing her to Adeline's (my friend Su In's daughter) birthday party in August. I feel very upset as well whenever I see April yelling at her little sister.
I really pity May for getting bully by April. I have also tried to talk....and now become a nag to April. Please love and care for your little sister, she is your only sibling, and you are her only sibling too. You girls must love each other forever. Mommy finds that April is sweet and smart, and May is adorable and innocent.
Both of you are so unique in your own way. No matter what, mommy loves you two forever.
Here mommy finds some tips to deal with the sibling revalry.
It's natural that rivalry develops, given the close proximity in which most siblings live. As children vie for attention, try to discover their place in the family, many feel their siblings receive preferential treatment. The results may end in jealousy, teasing, negative attention and competition. Here are a few things parents can do to curb or put a stop to sibling rivalry.

Instructions
Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Step One
Ignore fighting that focuses on getting your attention. As long as no one is being hurt, let them work it out on their own and they will see their tactics are not working and stop fighting. This will also prevent you from taking sides.

Step Two
Use positive reinforcement to increase desired behaviors and discuss ways they can handle disagreements. Teach your children how to feel empathy for others by having them serve others, including their siblings.

Step Three
Maintain a home environment centered on teamwork. Tell your children as often as possible that you love them and cherish them as individuals.

Step Four
Think about what triggers fighting and try to limit the chances for the siblings to start fighting.

Step Five
Stop siblings from engaging in competitions with each other before a fight begins. Give children consequences instead of punishments and make sure they are a natural result of their behavior.

Tips & Warnings
Always remain calm and do not let the children see that their fighting is getting to you. Avoid having shouting matches of your own.
Tell your children as often as possible that you love them and cherish them as individuals.
If a child is abused, emotionally, physically, mentally or sexually you must always intervene.

2007-08-11

Children Learn What They Live

If a child lives with criticism. He learns to condemn.
活在批评中的儿童学习到指责。

If a child lives with hostility. He learns to fight.
活在对立中的儿童学习到敌意。

If a child lives with ridicule. He learns to be shy.
活在嘲笑中的儿童学习到胆怯。

If a child lives with shame. He learns to feel guilty.

If a child lives with tolerance. He learns to be patient.
活在忍耐中的儿童学习到宽容。

If a child lives with encouragement. He learns confidence.
活在鼓励中的儿童学习到自信。

If a child lives with praise. He learns to appreciate.
活在赞美中的儿童学习到欣赏。

If a child lives with fairness. He learns justice.
活在真理中的儿童学习到正义。

If a child lives with security. He learns to have faith.

If a child lives with approval. He learns to like himself.

If a child lives with acceptance and friendship. He learns to find love in the world.
活在亲切中的儿童学习到仁爱。
活在快乐中的儿童将找到爱和快乐。

2007-08-09

A memo from your child

1. Don't spoil me...
I know quite well that I ought not to have all I ask for. I'm only testing you.

2. Don't be afraid to be firm with me...
I prefer it - it makes me feel secure.

3. Don't let me form bad habits...
I have to rely on you to detect them in the early stages.

4. Don't make me feel smaller than I am...
It only makes me behave stupidly big.

5. Don't correct me in front of people, if you can help it...
I'll take much moer notice if you talk quietly with me, and in private.

6. Don't make me feel my mistakes are sins...
It upsets my sense of values.

7. Don't be upset when I say 'I hate you!'...
It isn't you I hate, but your power to thwart me.

8. Don't be protect me from consequences...
I need to learn the painful way sometimes.

9. Don't take too much notice of my small ailments...
I am quite capable of trading on them.

10. Don't nag...
If you do, I will have to protect myself by appearing to be deaf.

11. Don't make rash promises...
Remember that I feel badly let down when promises are broken.

12. Don't forget that I can't eplain myself as well as I should like to...
That is why I'm not always very accurate.

13. Don't tax my honesty too much...
I am easily frightened into telling lies.

14. Don't be inconsistent...
That completely confuses me and makes me lose faith in you.

15. Don't put me off when I ask questions...
If you do, you will find that I stop asking and seek my information elsewhere.

16. Don't tell me my fears are silly...
They are terribly real to me and you can do much to reassure me if you try to understand.

17. Don't ever suggest that you are perfect or infallible...
It gives me too great a shock when I discover you are neither.

18. Don't forget that I can't thrive without lots of understanding and love...
...but I don't really need to tell you that, do I?

2007-08-08

Emotional Intelligence Theory (EQ - Emotional Quotient)

After being a mother of two children, and surviving in the workforce for almost 9 years, I know it is important to have good EQ.

Emotional Intelligence is increasingly relevant to organizational development and developing people, because the EQ principles provide a new way to understand and assess people's behaviours, management styles, attitudes, interpersonal skills, and potential. Emotional Intelligence is an important consideration in human resources planning, job profiling, recruitment interviewing and selection, management development, customer relations and customer service, and more.

EQ embraces two aspects of intelligence:
1. Understanding yourself, your goals, intentions, responses, behaviour and all.
2. Understanding others, and their feelings.

EQ - the five domains
1. Knowing your emotions.
2. Managing your own emotions.
3. Motivating yourself.
4. Recognising and understanding other people's emotions.
5. Managing relationships, ie., managing the emotions of others.

By developing our Emotional Intelligence in these areas and the five EQ domains we can become more productive and successful at what we do, and help others to be more productive and successful too. The process and outcomes of Emotional Intelligence development also contain many elements known to reduce stress for individuals and organizations, by decreasing conflict, improving relationships and understanding, and increasing stability, continuity and harmony.

I'm also improving my EQ every now and then, in order to minimize the stess of being a working mother .