男女相配的9大必要条件

12:04 Yannie 0 Comments

I stumbled this from http://www.sinchew-i.com/, since it is in Chinese, I try to do some simple translation into English.


Nine important things that for best couples.


第一:你们彼此都是对方最好的朋友,不带任何条件的,喜欢与对方在一起。

1. Treat each other as close buddy, and enjoy the moment be with each other.


第二:彼此很容易沟通、互相可以很敞开地坦白任何事情,而不必担心被对方怀疑或轻视。


2. Communicate openly and be frank on everything, without worrying for any suspicion and judgement.


第三:两人在心灵上有共同的理念和价值观,並且对这些观念有清楚的认识与追求。


3. Both are in sync and compromise to each other in their thinking, pursue and direction.


第四:你们都认为婚姻是一辈子的事,而且双方(特別强调“双方”)都坚定地愿意委身在这个长期的婚姻关係中。


4. Believing in the marriage and have trust in the long lasting relationship.


第五:当发生衝突或爭执的时候可以一起来解决,而不是等以后才来发作。

5. Try to get over and settle the argument or miscommunication together as soon as possible, do not drag it overnight and make the matter become more severe.

第六:相处可以彼此逗趣,常有欢笑,在生活中许多方面都会以幽默相待。

6. Have some sense of humour in life, in order to create some laughter at home.

第七:彼此非常瞭解,並且接纳对方,你知道对方瞭解你的优点和缺点,仍然確信 你是被他所接纳。

7. Understand and accept our partner as who s/he is. Tolerate the weakness, and admire the strength of our partner. Always believe that we are also accepted as who we are.

第八:从最认识你,也是你所最信任的人之处,得到支持和肯定。

8. Get support and recognition from the person that you are most trusted.

第九:有时你们会有浪漫的感情,但绝大多数的时候,你们的相处是非常满足而且自在的。

9. Most of the time that you are together, you'll feel satisfied and so natural.

星洲互动·2008.12.25

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Naptime

11:31 Yannie 2 Comments

I am very particular at my children nap time. Some people may think that I was being too stubborn in term of putting it as a must for my children, especially when they have to turn into a preschooler. I also don't know why I was so stubborn in this. May be it is because my late mom who also insisted us to nap on every afternoon when we were young. So, I was influenced by her indirectly, when I myself become a mom now.

I would be a bit annoyed if my children skipped their nap under the care of the babysitter. Of course, they have no chance to skip at all during my own care at the weekend. Due to my persistence demand on this aspect, the babysitter has also scared to fail in putting them to nap now. Hence, afternoon nap has become a routine for my children.

This morning when I stumbled the article on The Star Online: Lifestyle: Life Parenting: Afternoon Siesta, it talks about naps are important for the growth and well-being of an active pre-schooler. It also support my idea of making it a point to keep the nap time a routine as much as possible. According to the article, this way, the pre-schooler will realise that rest is important to everyone and we are serious about this. It also stressed that the preschool child will not resist sleep when she feels secure and happy.

I feel so glad that my stubborn idea on the nap time is actually right and good for my children.

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The happiest moment of Yan

11:26 Yannie 0 Comments

I always want to write about my happiest moment. My happiest moment is having a nap together with both my sweeties during the weekend. In more precise term, my happiest moments are on every Saturday and Sunday, from 3pm to 5.30pm. During these hours, I un-plugged the phone cables and put my mobile at the dining table, in order to make sure that our sweet sweet dreams wouldn't be interrupted by the rings. Besides, I also shut the door as a sign of "Do not disturb!" . I would feel extremely irritated, if my sleep was interrupted. Grrrrrrr....

That was the only time that I could catch up all my sleep loss during the week days. Every time I woke up from sweet nap, I felt my batteries were fully charged. I was liked re-gaining all the power. I could easily sleep through for 1 hour. If that day that I was lucky enough, I could even sleep up to 1.5 hour or 2 hours. I was surprised too, I was still able to sleep at night at the time that I used to doze off. Some people may not be able to sleep so early at night if they have taken nap. However, I seems have no such problem. May be I was overly tired during the week days, so how much more I napped in the weekend was not seems enough to replace it.

During these hours, when 3 of us were napped, my hubb would go for his badminton matches or gyms. He seldom took nap. When he was back in the evening, he would come up stair straight to give us the evening call. He was worrying that the children took too much nap and would stay up late at night, and he would be too tire to entertain them, as he was the only person not taking nap that day. Then, I would proudly tell him that how sweet my nap just now, how nice I feel now, how happy I am now, how energetic I can be so I want him to take me for more shopping tonight. He just stared at me speechlessly.

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April is asthmatic

11:12 Yannie 4 Comments

Since April was 3 year-old, she had multiple cold and flu. Every time she took quite long to recover from her cough. When she recovered, she could only enjoy the zero cough moment for only few weeks time, then the cough and flu returned. Including the record that she admitted to GMC Penang in last year due to the pneumonia, we have actually gone for almost all the famous GP and Paediatricians in town, as well as Glen eagle Medical Center and Hospital Lam Wah Ee in Penang. One particular GP told us that April is allergy type of child, she needs to take steroid inhaler to prevent the allergy from turning into Asthma. Hubb and I couldn't believe it, as none of us are asthmatic. We were actually quite hesitated to let April use the inhaler. We were in doubt that the long term use of the steroid might cause any side effect on the development of her growth.

Hubb and I decided to seek another opinion in this new Hospital Columbia Asia in town. Dr Fabian Matthew is the paediatrician there, who was previously from Hospital Children Hope in Penang.

After his diagnostic, he confirmed that April is actually asthmatic child, as he could find the following symptoms in her.
1. She has red circle at the bottom of her eyes area.
2. She uses to have eczema at the back of her knees and elbows.
3. She coughs and wheezes, when she doesn't have throat irritation.
4. She has good respond to nebuliser treatment with Ventolin.
5. She has sensitive nose.
6. Persistence cough without breathing difficulty is also a type of silence asthma.

Dr Fabian concluded that April is asthmatic as she is having nose allergy, skin allergy and lung allergy. These 3 allergies are in one group, that is Asthma.

From now on, hubb and I decided to work closely with Dr. Fabian, in order to give April the best treatment of her allergies. We have actually started her on the inhaler with Seretide for her lung and Clarityne for her nose. Dr. Fabian has stressed to us that the inhaler is the best treatment for asthmatic patient, as the medicine is going straight to the lung and not to the blood stream. So this is different for the oral medication, inhaler has minimal side effect on the health and acts quicker than the oral medication. He also stated that if the asthmatic patients are under control of getting more asthma attacks during the childhood, most slightly that they can outgrow the problem when they in their teens.

I told hubb that we cannot be upset, instead we have to accept the fact that our child is asthmatic. We have to be thankful that we know it earlier. We have to trust the doctor diagnostic, and take good care of April, my sweet heart.

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New Year 2009 Resolution

15:07 Yannie 0 Comments

Every year comes to an end, I always have a resolution.

Here are them.
1. Teach my children in a positive manner, and not in punishment. (It means to keep away the cane this coming year)
2. Talk softly, clearly and gently to my children and hubb. (They can hear it better and feel loved, confident and respected)
3. Look carefully at what my children are doing and listen attentively to what they are saying.
(Children want to be respected and cared for without prejudice or violence)
4. Spend more time with hubb. (Loving parents have loving kids)
5. Spend less money with more quality product. (Learn to be a smart consumer)
6. Listen to your heart. (Woman with confidence is always beautiful)

Last but not least, 7. Eat less and exercise more. (No starve no lose). This last point is in my list forever.

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The last month in year 2008

13:42 Yannie 1 Comments

Due to Hari Raya Haji and the company has additional day of plant shut down, so last weekend was a long weekend. Since it is already in the very last month of year 2008. I accomplished a few things during the long holidays.


1. Hubb and I went for a dental checkup. It is very nice to have the dental supply of RM500 from hubb company. It will be just waived, if it is not being utilized in a year. Both of us went for the annual checkup and thorough cleaning of our teeth. The cleaning process make my gums still pain now T________T. As usual, the dentist advised me to remove my wisdom tooth by a minor surgery. I don't want to, it sound so scary. I'll rather pay double or triple attention while cleaning my teeth, especially the wisdom tooth area. I'm worrying that after removing my wisdom tooth, I won't be so wise anymore. Hehehe.....


2. I managed to sneak out alone from home just for the CNY cloths shopping. I left my two kids with my hubby. In short, I spent quite a lot last weekend, I had made sure everyone have new cloths and new shoes.


3. I did also spend some quality time with my two princesses and my love one.


Nevertheless, I still have some outstanding items which it is queueing for my action and attention before the arrival of Ox year.


1. Housekeeping my wardrobe and my princesses' wardrobe. It is also time to donate some of the cloths to the charity department, in order to free up some spaces for the newly bought cloths.


2. 1 more kg to lose, and I'll be contented.


3. Spend more time with hubb, as he has put a lot of effort to make the children and my life very comfortable and cozy

4. Dye my hair and bring my princesses for a hair cut.


Last but not least, I wish everyone Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.


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Madagascar: Escape 2 Africa

13:05 Yannie 0 Comments

Tuesday, we went for our first family movie at SSC Taiping Sentral. Initially, Hubb and I planned to watch the new movie of James Bond, Quantum Of Solace. Due to the bad movie reviews that we got, we changed our mind. We decided to watch the 7pm movie Madagascar 2 together with April and May. Just to let them get an experience of watching movie at cinema. As per our expectation, April was really enjoying the movie, as well as the pop corn. As for May, she was a bit nervous in the beginning. After a while, she was ok. They were looking around when they were not looking at the screen.


Overall, this was quite a not bad experience. Everyone seems satisfied and happy.


(I Like To Move It, Move It. I Like To Move It, Move It. I Like To Move It, Move It .................)

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First handcraft with my children

14:56 Yannie 2 Comments

Over the weekend, we worked on a handcraft - photo frames. At first, April brought home an inspiration photo frame from her MRC 3Q Chinese class. When May saw it, she would like to have one too. So, I decided to let them work on it one more time during the weekend.
First I gave each them a paper. Next I drew a big rectangle and a small rectangle inside the big one. The small rectangle was in the 4R photo size. Then I let April draw some patterns within the two rectangles on her own. As for May, I drew small triangles around it. They coloured the photo frames all by themselves. To my surprise, May was able to colour it very nicely. After finishing colouring, I cut the rectangles out and glued them on a cupboard papers. April was helping me to glue the 4R photos on the small rectangles. Finally, I thought of the lucky stars that we kept in the cabinet long long time ago. The lucky stars were actually folded by their father as the 'sweet sweet love' gift to their mother during their old dating and courtship time. Luckily, we still well-kept it and now it was utilised as the kid craft items.
Two of them enjoyed sticking the lucky stars on the photo frames for decoration.


Ta daaaaaaaa the end result of our first handcraft that we did together at home.

This was the handcraft that April brought back from her last MRC 3Q Chinese class, as I had registered her into a new local kiddy - Genius Mind Center. April has given it to me to put it on my office cubicle.

This is May's photo frame. Although the colour is not very even, overall she has done a very good job by using different colours and coloured within the lines.

This is April's one, she did all the drawing and colouring herself.

So proud and happy of them with their self-created photo frames.

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My two precious daughters

10:09 Yannie 3 Comments

Look at them, my two precious daughters. I enjoy taking photos of them every time we get ready to go out. April and May are getting closer and closer now. They play, eat and sleep together. It is a very fun thing to see them play, and listen to their communication. However, it is a tense moment too, when they start to cry, fight and yell at each other.
April is 4 year and 7 month, 18.5kg. May is 2 year and 5 month, 11.4kg. Their favourite TV shows are Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, Tom and Jerry, Pink Panther, Woody Wood Packer, Mr Bean, Barbie, Tiny Planet, Three Little Brown Bear, Dandy and Daddy, and all other Disney Cartoon Movies.
Every night when both of them sleep next to me soundly, I feel so grateful that I am granted with two lovely and healthy daughters.

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Yellow + Orange = ?

15:09 Yannie 0 Comments

Last Friday evening was my MIL's Birthday celebration dinner. When I back from work, I quickly took a shower and started to dress up. While dressing up, I kept asking hubb how was it? Nice? Can? I was worried and scared that people couldn't accept my sense of fashion. I wore a yellow dress shirt and peach orange pants stocking. What a daring combination of colours right? It was my first time to have such colours combination too. Everything also have the first time right? When I completed my make up, I requested hubb to help me to take some shots to scare my blog readers and fellow friends WTF. Angeline and Mei have asked me the same question, "What shoes that u wore then?" Thanks for your thoughtfulness, I wore a black pumps. Angeline said "Simple and In". Mei said "Nice and In". Su In said "Super model mum". You ladies have made me smile wide until can reach ears.
Here it goes. What is your comment?





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Talk to me

17:08 Yannie 0 Comments


I have nothing much to blog recently, except that I'm now only watching the very famous TVB series Moonlight Resonance. Due to this series, I kept waking up to burn midnight oil, and this has led to my acne break out at my jaw line T_________T. Last night, I have watched the episode 26. Another 14 episodes to go.
It is the rainy season now. I'm weird, I like raining. As I find the air is so fresh and clean everytime after raining. Especially raining at the night time, the air is so cooling, it is so nice to sleep even without using air-con. I simply prefer rainy days and I hate hot and hazy days. Sorry to those that need to suffer from the traffic jam due to the rain.
Besides, I have started on the CNY clothings shopping. Fast right? Let me count, 1, 2, 3, 4 and 5 pieces already. If no major function in these 3 months, I'll keep them for CNY.
Here, I would like to share this very sentimental song "Talk to me" here, it is also the subtheme song of MR.

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Win a Free Hanbag

11:05 Yannie 0 Comments

Since I have spent quite a lot on shoes, cosmestic, skin care, apparel and other accessories. I still lack of one presentable and fashionable hangbag. Thank God that I was invited to this http://www.handbagplanet.com/. You can win a free handbag from here. Please sign in now, quick, quick, quick. Don't miss out your chance to win it.

My choice of bag is this metalic blue hand bag. Suit me right? Please help me to win it. It is very easy only, just sign in and click on the hand bag that you like.


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Must have skin care and cosmestic

15:05 Yannie 1 Comments

I went to the newly opened The Face Shop during my lunch hours. I bought 2 daily must-have items from there, and it costs me around RM110.

First must-have item - lip gloss.
I prefer something natural and glossy. End up I choose this



Fruits Jelly Tube PK102

Description: It smells and tastes like fruit - that can be worn alone or on top of lipstick. Ultra shiny ultra moisturizing with delicious fruit flavor such as Acerora Blueberry Grapefruit Pomegranate Apple Strawberry. It glides on smoothly with glossy shine Excellent in hydration and aids to retain moisture in lips.


Second must-have item - mask.
I want something which can provide hydration and relaxation. So, this is my choice


Raspberry Roots Sleeping Mask


Description: This advanced lifting line formulated with Wild Himalayan Raspberry Roots instantly lifts tightens pores and re-contours the skin that lacks resilience. Nourishes hydrates and relaxes skin through the night - Convenient. Does not need to be washed off.

I have already applied the lip gloss right after back to the office. I am very satisfied with the color and the feel. Tonight, I'll try out the sleeping mask.

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My first white pump

14:34 Yannie 1 Comments

I finally got my first white pump today. What so special about this pump? It is nothing special. It is just a plain white pump. The specialities of the shoes are,
1. The heels are 1.5 inches, I hardly have shoes with heels actually, due to my 5.8 feet height, and thanks to my hubby 5.79 feet or less height.
2. It is a pump with sharp and narrow head, I used to have very comfy flat shoes.

Since it is a trend now to wear pants stocking, so I must equip my shoes cabinet with one pump shoes. Sorry dear, if I make you look like Tom Cruise and not Brad Pitt.


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Cameron Highlands 2 Days and 1 night Trip

11:53 Yannie 0 Comments

The last time hubb and I visited Cameron was 7 years ago. That time we went as a newly wed couples. This was the second time, we brought along our two angels. Cameron is totally different from Genting. Cameron is a very natural, fresh, cold, rest and relax place. We visitted places Bee Farm, Self-Plucking Strawberry Farm, Butterfly Farm, Boh Tea Centre and Plantation, and Rose Valley.


This was the self-plucking strawberry farm. April and May enjoyed using scissors to cut the strawberries.

We were at the butterfly farm. Can you see the butterflies rest on the plant?


The view at the balcony of Hotel Heritage.

The Boh Tea Centre at Sungai Palas.

Our last spot before going home was the Rose Valley. Everyone was enjoyed and tired.

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Getting kid to help preparing meal

11:22 Yannie 1 Comments

After returning from Cameron trip, we bought some fresh vegetable and cooked on Sunday morning.
I remembered the bag of tricks of AiLian, which I was impressed by the post in her blog. Then, I talked to myself, "It is time to get April involve in the meal preparation. ". While she was watching Mickey Mouse's Clubhouse from Astro, I handed over to her a basket of french beans. I taught her to peel off the "head" and "tail" of the french beans. She did it very well and with full concentration, until she forgot about the "mouse-ke-tool, mouse-ke-tool" on the TV.

I hope I can get her into the kitchen real soon.

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After long silence

09:18 Yannie 0 Comments

I was damn busy at work recently, until I neglected my blog. This post is going to be very random.

1. Start my new diet plan yesterday. I bought the formula 1and formula 3 soy powder from Herbal Like. It is a replacement meal. I drink it for my breakfast. I would like to lost 3 more kg by next CNY. Hubb said that I can claim back the money that I spent on the replacement meal from him, if I successfully hit my target weight. So, I must really starve harder now.

2. April and May were both getting bigger and more independent, and I have more time for myself and hubb now. When both of them were in bed, hubb and I used to watch a nice DVD together. We just watched "Money is not enough 2" 2 days ago.

3. Tomorrow, I'm on leave. We go to Cemeron Highland for another only 4 members family trip. Since it is so hot recently, we shall be there to enjoy the cool air and have steamboat at the same time.

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Genting

11:09 Yannie 2 Comments

We went to Genting one day after celebrating the National day. Hubb has booked for a 3days and 2nights stay at Genting for us and PIL. The children were quite excited. We left home about noon. We arrived at Genting at 4pm. We thought it was a school day on the following day, it would be a low season. To our surprise, it was very very crowded and packed everywhere in Genting. Hubb took almost 5 hours to get us checking in the First World Hotel. Sucks, it was really a killing 5 hours. Luckily PIL have checked into Theme Park Hotel. At least, I could get my children bath, change and rest, while hubb was queueing up at the First World main hall. My first evening plan was actually the last day Mega Sales shopping spree, it was spoilt due to no mood and tired. I really hate the queue and also the slow service of First World front desks. 5 hours waiting and doing nothing time has really challenged my patience. And yet, I have to try to suppress my anger, in order not to spoilt everyone mood, but I still couldn't help myself to show some grumpiness to my hubb. Of course, he didn't feel good too. It was not so ideal to go to Genting, even one day after the long weekend. As, the crowd was still there.



Anyway, we tried to control our emotion and hoped for a better tomorrow. We did. The next day was fun. We bought everyone a ticket to the indoor and outdoor theme park. My children enjoyed all the rides from noon till dawn. The grannies were trying to join in the fun.
We had some simple lunch at Hou Mei, and buffet dinner at Resort Hotel. After the dinner, the grannies returned to their room to rest. My children were continue to catch up some indoor rides, and I tried to sneak out for my alone shopping time.



We checked out on the next day, and headed straight back to our home sweet home. This was actually the first Genting trip for May, and third Genting trip for April. It was the fourth family trip for us in this year, after going to Penang in April, Bandung in May and Lumut in June. Next trip? If there is, I wish to go Cameron Highland.

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TIPS FOR BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM

13:54 Yannie 1 Comments

I always believed that a real beauty of a woman is very much depended on the self-esteem that she possesses. So try these...

  1. Celebrate you! Reward yourself when you have accomplished something! You don't need to wait for others to recognize what you've done.
  2. Surround yourself with positive people. Spend time with people who are upbeat and feel good about themselves. They, in turn, will put a smile on your face and help you feel good about yourself.
  3. Challenge yourself to try new things.Try a ropes course, learn some new dance steps, speak in front of a large group. Stepping outside of your comfort zone to try new things is a great way to grow.
  4. Be good to your body. Exercising, eating well, and getting plenty of sleep will help you move toward a healthier you—inside and out!
  5. Find and express the real you. No other person has the unique combination of qualities that you have! Be proud of yourself and be courageous enough to express your true feelings.
  6. Have a positive mental attitude. A positive attitude is contagious! You'll feel good and people will want to hang out with you.
  7. Learn from your experiences. Learn from your actions—both good and bad, and use the knowledge you gain to make positive decisions in the future.
  8. Find the humor in everyday life. When you can see the funny side of things, you'll be less stressed and more likely to handle tough situations better.

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THE LAW OF THE GARBAGE TRUCK

09:37 Yannie 2 Comments

In fact, these 2 weeks were actually not a very good memory for me. I encountered some family matter with my in-law family. It was a bit sad to say that this has ruined the good impression and rapport that had build between in-law family and myself so far. Due to the lost of both my parents in early days, I actually rely on my in-law family, and I trust and respect them very much. So, our relationship actually get pretty closer if compare to other in-law relationships. However, the relationship was not being cultivated and well-taken care of due to some narrow minded people in the house. These low educated people were involved and interfered my peaceful and harmony small family. That make me start to hate them and defence my right as a mother with every strength that I have.

Nevertheless, I really appreciated those support and view from my girl friends like Angeline, Lorita, Su-In, Yvonne and my sister. You ladies have successfully cheered me up and survived me through the war. Without them, I could actually make the issue worse.

Besides, I would like to express my apologize to my dearest hubb. Sorry for making you as my garbage truck. Sorry for forcing you to swallow down all my nasty remarks. Thanks for standing by me. I love you.

This is a good story that I would like to share here.

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood ???? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day? However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly one can get back their focus on what's important.
David J. Pollay explains his story in this way....
Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here's what happened. I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches! The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean...he was friendly. So, I said, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!" And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, "The Law of the Garbage Truck." "‎Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you. When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally. You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did." I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets? It was that day I said, "I'm not going to do it anymore."
Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets. Love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don't. Believe that everything happens for a reason. Never let the garbage truck run over you....

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How to Choose Between Home and Work ?

09:51 Yannie 2 Comments

I am uncertain, and I manage to Google the following.

If you're a mother trying to decide whether to stay home, work full time, or work part time, here are six things to consider:

1. Money. Your family's financial picture is obviously important as basic needs such as food, shelter, clothing, and health care costs need to be covered. Beyond the essentials, household needs vary, and it is up to you and your family to decide whether staying at home, working part time, or working full time will work best. If you decide to stay home, consider what the loss of income will mean for the family and for your own spending. Make sure to discuss this with your significant other......
Yes, we have discussed over this a few rounds. He said no problem, but I am uncertain.

2. Personal preference. It is crucial to determine your own feelings about working and staying home, because it can make a difference in your child's life. Experts say a mother's level of fulfillment and the quality (versus quantity) of time she spends with her child are the biggest components to his intellectual and emotional development and to his ability to succeed in the world. "If mom is a happier person, then she is going to have a more fulfilling and therefore healthier relationship with her kids,"
Agree, mom is not happy at work now T__T, easy to feel irritable with the job.


3. Your significant other. Your partner's support of your decision is critical; otherwise there could be many difficulties. If the person that you're living with is unsupportive, he or she may not help you with finances, child rearing, or household chores. Resentments could build up on both sides. If you and your significant other disagree over whether you should stay home or work. Also, whatever course of action you take, make sure to run by potential issues with your partner. If you decide/continue to work, for example, it's important to figure out details such as how long maternity and paternity leave will be, who will pick up kids from day care or school, or who will care for them when they're sick.
Yes, he supports whatever decision that I'm going to make. He leaves to me to choose the date and I'm uncertain.



4. Social network. Wherever you are, make sure you have a group of people who will support you. If you stay at home, look for other moms in the neighborhood who are dealing with the same issues. At work, connect with other mothers either informally, or through structured women's groups. She says stay-at-home moms need to have adult interaction, and all moms can benefit from being around other women who face the same issues.
Stay at home or stay at work, women need to have social life.


5. Career and Workplace. How family friendly your employer is can play a huge role in how difficult it will be to stay home or continue working. Even before you have a baby, look for a job that will be respectful of your family's values. If you decide to stay home, determine how likely it will be for you to return to your job or career. To help keep competitive while at home, like keeping current in your profession by taking classes, working part time, or volunteering in projects related to your career.
I'm certainly know that he is not family friendly, though he himself is a family oriented person.
Means, he loves his own family, but not your family.

6. Culture. Expectations of mothers in families and society can make it difficult for women who have different ideas. If the family tradition involves staying at home to take care of children, for example, working moms may end up feeling guilty about leaving their kid(s) in day care. At the same time, a growing culture of intensive parenting - where the mother and child bond are emphasized - may pressure some women to stay home. All of the family and cultural demands can make a woman feel guilty and resentful. To shed negative feelings, "Remember," , "if the mother isn't happy, no one is happy."
It is true that whatever we decide, we do concern of the others' expectation and views.
And it is also true that a happy mother is the fundamental of a happy family.

This working mom feel really guilty for not spending enough time, and also for releasing my tension to them sometimes. So, she bought a playhouse for the girls from GIANT.





This full time working mom enjoys seeing the girls have fun with the new toy.
Later, they started to play peek-a-boo/hide n seek in the playhouse.


April first to crawl out. Then followed by May.



Ooooo! I catch U liao!


April is tall enough to show her head from the chimney.


Papa was back, and he joined in and be the Big Bad Wolf. This big bad wolf is trying to blow off the 2 little pigs' house.

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17 Quick Ways to Strengthen the Bonds of Love

15:12 Yannie 1 Comments

by Pat Downing

On Mother’s Day, we celebrate the most important job on the planet.
Most moms appreciate being acknowledged, but many still feel overwhelmed by the pressures of daily life. They would like to fit more time with their children into their busy schedules, but don’t know how.
The solution may be easier than you imagine.
The most important thing you can do for your child is to create and nurture a strong, loving relationship between the two of you.
Here are 17 easy ways to strengthen your connection with your child:
The good news is: they don’t take much time.
  1. Always smile when your child comes in the room.
  2. Hug at least once a day. For older children and teens, who may be embarrassed, do it in private. Try telling them YOU are the one who needs it.
  3. Schedule time every day to connect with your child - to talk about how their day went or perhaps read together or play a short game of his or her choice. Regularity is more important than length of time.
  4. Include your children in your daily activities: Let them help in the kitchen or the garden, but keep the atmosphere light and the conversation easy - no scolding or criticizing.
  5. Make up poems or stories together - taking turns adding a line. Laughs are guaranteed.
  6. Use words of encouragement rather than criticism.
  7. If your child needs correcting, do it gently, in a way that teaches, without scolding or put-downs.
  8. Ask your children’s opinions often - about little things and also more important issues. Let them know you value their ideas.
  9. Watch TV programs together that will help your children to learn about life, then ask their opinion and talk about the issues from the show.
  10. Speak to them with courtesy: Say "Please" and "Thank you," and use kind words.
  11. Apologize when you have been wrong. Show them we all make mistakes.
  12. Write a note to let them know you’re thinking about them – perhaps with a joke or funny message - and hide it in their lunch box, book bag or a dresser drawer.
  13. Don’t expect them to be perfect.
  14. Forgive easily – then gently help them learn from their mistakes.
  15. Let your children over-hear you praising them to someone else.
  16. Create a bed-time ritual. It may include reading a story or poem, saying a prayer, remembering loved ones, talking about the day, singing a song, making funny faces or anything that helps you end the day in a positive way.
  17. As you are falling asleep, think of something you appreciate about your child. Feel your love, and send some of it silently to your child.
Sweet dreams.

Pat and Larry Downing of Asheville, NC, have many years of experience counseling teenagers and their parents, conducting family mediations and leading workshops and support groups. They are co-authors of the e-Book, "Feel Good Parenting: How to Use the Power of Your Heart to Create an Extraordinary Relationship with Your Child."
For a free e-book, "How to Get the Best from Your Children," and for more information on how to create harmonious relationships with your children, you may go to: http://www.feelgoodparenting.com/“http://www.feelgoodparenting.com/”
Copyright © 2005 by Patricia Downing
PERMISSION TO REPUBLISH: This article may be republished in newsletters and on websites, provided you include ALL the above information about the authors, as it appears, including copyright information and live website link.

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May wants to be butterfly

10:13 Yannie 2 Comments

Again, yesterday I was alone with May at home. Hubb was not back from work, and April was in the art lesson.
May was eyeing on April's butterfly set that she longs for, but I still couldn't get one for her. April's one was a gift from Aunt Su In.
Since the jie jie is so possessive and powerful, May only dares to touch Jie Jie's things whenever Jie Jie is not around.
I always find May is not as sweet as April, however May does have a pathetic look, that can almost melt everyone tender heart.



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