2008-08-09

How to Choose Between Home and Work ?

I am uncertain, and I manage to Google the following.

If you're a mother trying to decide whether to stay home, work full time, or work part time, here are six things to consider:

1. Money. Your family's financial picture is obviously important as basic needs such as food, shelter, clothing, and health care costs need to be covered. Beyond the essentials, household needs vary, and it is up to you and your family to decide whether staying at home, working part time, or working full time will work best. If you decide to stay home, consider what the loss of income will mean for the family and for your own spending. Make sure to discuss this with your significant other......
Yes, we have discussed over this a few rounds. He said no problem, but I am uncertain.

2. Personal preference. It is crucial to determine your own feelings about working and staying home, because it can make a difference in your child's life. Experts say a mother's level of fulfillment and the quality (versus quantity) of time she spends with her child are the biggest components to his intellectual and emotional development and to his ability to succeed in the world. "If mom is a happier person, then she is going to have a more fulfilling and therefore healthier relationship with her kids,"
Agree, mom is not happy at work now T__T, easy to feel irritable with the job.


3. Your significant other. Your partner's support of your decision is critical; otherwise there could be many difficulties. If the person that you're living with is unsupportive, he or she may not help you with finances, child rearing, or household chores. Resentments could build up on both sides. If you and your significant other disagree over whether you should stay home or work. Also, whatever course of action you take, make sure to run by potential issues with your partner. If you decide/continue to work, for example, it's important to figure out details such as how long maternity and paternity leave will be, who will pick up kids from day care or school, or who will care for them when they're sick.
Yes, he supports whatever decision that I'm going to make. He leaves to me to choose the date and I'm uncertain.



4. Social network. Wherever you are, make sure you have a group of people who will support you. If you stay at home, look for other moms in the neighborhood who are dealing with the same issues. At work, connect with other mothers either informally, or through structured women's groups. She says stay-at-home moms need to have adult interaction, and all moms can benefit from being around other women who face the same issues.
Stay at home or stay at work, women need to have social life.


5. Career and Workplace. How family friendly your employer is can play a huge role in how difficult it will be to stay home or continue working. Even before you have a baby, look for a job that will be respectful of your family's values. If you decide to stay home, determine how likely it will be for you to return to your job or career. To help keep competitive while at home, like keeping current in your profession by taking classes, working part time, or volunteering in projects related to your career.
I'm certainly know that he is not family friendly, though he himself is a family oriented person.
Means, he loves his own family, but not your family.

6. Culture. Expectations of mothers in families and society can make it difficult for women who have different ideas. If the family tradition involves staying at home to take care of children, for example, working moms may end up feeling guilty about leaving their kid(s) in day care. At the same time, a growing culture of intensive parenting - where the mother and child bond are emphasized - may pressure some women to stay home. All of the family and cultural demands can make a woman feel guilty and resentful. To shed negative feelings, "Remember," , "if the mother isn't happy, no one is happy."
It is true that whatever we decide, we do concern of the others' expectation and views.
And it is also true that a happy mother is the fundamental of a happy family.

This working mom feel really guilty for not spending enough time, and also for releasing my tension to them sometimes. So, she bought a playhouse for the girls from GIANT.





This full time working mom enjoys seeing the girls have fun with the new toy.
Later, they started to play peek-a-boo/hide n seek in the playhouse.


April first to crawl out. Then followed by May.



Ooooo! I catch U liao!


April is tall enough to show her head from the chimney.


Papa was back, and he joined in and be the Big Bad Wolf. This big bad wolf is trying to blow off the 2 little pigs' house.

2 comments:

  1. Good analysis. I can use it as reference for myself :)

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  2. Yeah, pretty good reference to decide if we can really give up what we have now and be a SAHM. Work really sucks too but can afford to give up the salary lah.

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