男女相配的9大必要条件

I stumbled this from http://www.sinchew-i.com/, since it is in Chinese, I try to do some simple translation into English.


Nine important things that for best couples.


第一：你们彼此都是对方最好的朋友，不带任何条件的，喜欢与对方在一起。

1. Treat each other as close buddy, and enjoy the moment be with each other.


第二：彼此很容易沟通、互相可以很敞开地坦白任何事情，而不必担心被对方怀疑或轻视。


2. Communicate openly and be frank on everything, without worrying for any suspicion and judgement.


第三：两人在心灵上有共同的理念和价值观，並且对这些观念有清楚的认识与追求。


3. Both are in sync and compromise to each other in their thinking, pursue and direction.


第四：你们都认为婚姻是一辈子的事，而且双方（特別强调“双方”）都坚定地愿意委身在这个长期的婚姻关係中。


4. Believing in the marriage and have trust in the long lasting relationship.


第五：当发生衝突或爭执的时候可以一起来解决，而不是等以后才来发作。

5. Try to get over and settle the argument or miscommunication together as soon as possible, do not drag it overnight and make the matter become more severe.

第六：相处可以彼此逗趣，常有欢笑，在生活中许多方面都会以幽默相待。

6. Have some sense of humour in life, in order to create some laughter at home.

第七：彼此非常瞭解，並且接纳对方，你知道对方瞭解你的优点和缺点，仍然確信 你是被他所接纳。

7. Understand and accept our partner as who s/he is. Tolerate the weakness, and admire the strength of our partner. Always believe that we are also accepted as who we are.

第八：从最认识你，也是你所最信任的人之处，得到支持和肯定。

8. Get support and recognition from the person that you are most trusted.

第九：有时你们会有浪漫的感情，但绝大多数的时候，你们的相处是非常满足而且自在的。

9. Most of the time that you are together, you'll feel satisfied and so natural.

星洲互动·2008.12.25

Naptime

I am very particular at my children nap time. Some people may think that I was being too stubborn in term of putting it as a must for my children, especially when they have to turn into a preschooler. I also don't know why I was so stubborn in this. May be it is because my late mom who also insisted us to nap on every afternoon when we were young. So, I was influenced by her indirectly, when I myself become a mom now.

I would be a bit annoyed if my children skipped their nap under the care of the babysitter. Of course, they have no chance to skip at all during my own care at the weekend. Due to my persistence demand on this aspect, the babysitter has also scared to fail in putting them to nap now. Hence, afternoon nap has become a routine for my children.

This morning when I stumbled the article on The Star Online: Lifestyle: Life Parenting: Afternoon Siesta, it talks about naps are important for the growth and well-being of an active pre-schooler. It also support my idea of making it a point to keep the nap time a routine as much as possible. According to the article, this way, the pre-schooler will realise that rest is important to everyone and we are serious about this. It also stressed that the preschool child will not resist sleep when she feels secure and happy.

I feel so glad that my stubborn idea on the nap time is actually right and good for my children.

The happiest moment of Yan

I always want to write about my happiest moment. My happiest moment is having a nap together with both my sweeties during the weekend. In more precise term, my happiest moments are on every Saturday and Sunday, from 3pm to 5.30pm. During these hours, I un-plugged the phone cables and put my mobile at the dining table, in order to make sure that our sweet sweet dreams wouldn't be interrupted by the rings. Besides, I also shut the door as a sign of "Do not disturb!" . I would feel extremely irritated, if my sleep was interrupted. Grrrrrrr....

That was the only time that I could catch up all my sleep loss during the week days. Every time I woke up from sweet nap, I felt my batteries were fully charged. I was liked re-gaining all the power. I could easily sleep through for 1 hour. If that day that I was lucky enough, I could even sleep up to 1.5 hour or 2 hours. I was surprised too, I was still able to sleep at night at the time that I used to doze off. Some people may not be able to sleep so early at night if they have taken nap. However, I seems have no such problem. May be I was overly tired during the week days, so how much more I napped in the weekend was not seems enough to replace it.

During these hours, when 3 of us were napped, my hubb would go for his badminton matches or gyms. He seldom took nap. When he was back in the evening, he would come up stair straight to give us the evening call. He was worrying that the children took too much nap and would stay up late at night, and he would be too tire to entertain them, as he was the only person not taking nap that day. Then, I would proudly tell him that how sweet my nap just now, how nice I feel now, how happy I am now, how energetic I can be so I want him to take me for more shopping tonight. He just stared at me speechlessly.

April is asthmatic

Since April was 3 year-old, she had multiple cold and flu. Every time she took quite long to recover from her cough. When she recovered, she could only enjoy the zero cough moment for only few weeks time, then the cough and flu returned. Including the record that she admitted to GMC Penang in last year due to the pneumonia, we have actually gone for almost all the famous GP and Paediatricians in town, as well as Glen eagle Medical Center and Hospital Lam Wah Ee in Penang. One particular GP told us that April is allergy type of child, she needs to take steroid inhaler to prevent the allergy from turning into Asthma. Hubb and I couldn't believe it, as none of us are asthmatic. We were actually quite hesitated to let April use the inhaler. We were in doubt that the long term use of the steroid might cause any side effect on the development of her growth.

Hubb and I decided to seek another opinion in this new Hospital Columbia Asia in town. Dr Fabian Matthew is the paediatrician there, who was previously from Hospital Children Hope in Penang.

After his diagnostic, he confirmed that April is actually asthmatic child, as he could find the following symptoms in her.
1. She has red circle at the bottom of her eyes area.
2. She uses to have eczema at the back of her knees and elbows.
3. She coughs and wheezes, when she doesn't have throat irritation.
4. She has good respond to nebuliser treatment with Ventolin.
5. She has sensitive nose.
6. Persistence cough without breathing difficulty is also a type of silence asthma.

Dr Fabian concluded that April is asthmatic as she is having nose allergy, skin allergy and lung allergy. These 3 allergies are in one group, that is Asthma.

From now on, hubb and I decided to work closely with Dr. Fabian, in order to give April the best treatment of her allergies. We have actually started her on the inhaler with Seretide for her lung and Clarityne for her nose. Dr. Fabian has stressed to us that the inhaler is the best treatment for asthmatic patient, as the medicine is going straight to the lung and not to the blood stream. So this is different for the oral medication, inhaler has minimal side effect on the health and acts quicker than the oral medication. He also stated that if the asthmatic patients are under control of getting more asthma attacks during the childhood, most slightly that they can outgrow the problem when they in their teens.

I told hubb that we cannot be upset, instead we have to accept the fact that our child is asthmatic. We have to be thankful that we know it earlier. We have to trust the doctor diagnostic, and take good care of April, my sweet heart.

New Year 2009 Resolution

Every year comes to an end, I always have a resolution.

Here are them.
1. Teach my children in a positive manner, and not in punishment. (It means to keep away the cane this coming year)
2. Talk softly, clearly and gently to my children and hubb. (They can hear it better and feel loved, confident and respected)
3. Look carefully at what my children are doing and listen attentively to what they are saying.
(Children want to be respected and cared for without prejudice or violence)
4. Spend more time with hubb. (Loving parents have loving kids)
5. Spend less money with more quality product. (Learn to be a smart consumer)
6. Listen to your heart. (Woman with confidence is always beautiful)

Last but not least, 7. Eat less and exercise more. (No starve no lose). This last point is in my list forever.

The last month in year 2008

Due to Hari Raya Haji and the company has additional day of plant shut down, so last weekend was a long weekend. Since it is already in the very last month of year 2008. I accomplished a few things during the long holidays.


1. Hubb and I went for a dental checkup. It is very nice to have the dental supply of RM500 from hubb company. It will be just waived, if it is not being utilized in a year. Both of us went for the annual checkup and thorough cleaning of our teeth. The cleaning process make my gums still pain now T________T. As usual, the dentist advised me to remove my wisdom tooth by a minor surgery. I don't want to, it sound so scary. I'll rather pay double or triple attention while cleaning my teeth, especially the wisdom tooth area. I'm worrying that after removing my wisdom tooth, I won't be so wise anymore. Hehehe.....


2. I managed to sneak out alone from home just for the CNY cloths shopping. I left my two kids with my hubby. In short, I spent quite a lot last weekend, I had made sure everyone have new cloths and new shoes.


3. I did also spend some quality time with my two princesses and my love one.


Nevertheless, I still have some outstanding items which it is queueing for my action and attention before the arrival of Ox year.


1. Housekeeping my wardrobe and my princesses' wardrobe. It is also time to donate some of the cloths to the charity department, in order to free up some spaces for the newly bought cloths.


2. 1 more kg to lose, and I'll be contented.


3. Spend more time with hubb, as he has put a lot of effort to make the children and my life very comfortable and cozy

4. Dye my hair and bring my princesses for a hair cut.


Last but not least, I wish everyone Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.