Two moral valuesHi hi folks, in case you are wondering why I am being MIA. I am all around, not going any where. I am doing good with my kids, my husband and my activities. Everything is in routine, only a bit busy at work.
Recently, I have two moral values that make me ponder for a while. I have finally cleared up my mind with a conclusion after talking to my husband.
1. Lost and found
My 7 years old, April related excitedly to me on things that happened at school. She and her classmates found some coins at the field. They handed the coins to their Moral teacher happily.
I recalled my mother taught me on this matter when I was still a kid. My late mother's advice is to pass the money to teachers if the money was big and found inside the classroom, but if money was small and found outside the classroom, it isn't necessary to pass to teachers. So, I thought of telling the same thing to April.
My husband has other concerns. He worries that April is too young to know how much money is considered as big. Besides, she may confuse on the grey line between where she finds the money. He reckoned April and her classmates were right to hand the money to teacher. They sure gain a few points for good moral behaviour. I agree with him.
2. True and false
We got April's report card last month, she was at the position of 1/96. I was very proud of her, so as her father, who involved more than me in her revision. To be frank here, I am very particular in my children's academy achievement. If it is within their capability, I want them to prove it in the exam. Call me a 'Kiasu mum' or a 'Tiger mum', you like.
My Honest Boy of Inspired Momx1 made me ponder whether I should tell April what to do when teachers are making mistake in the marking. I wanted to tell her if her answer is correct, teachers mark as wrong, she has to go and check with teachers. On the other hand, if her answer is wrong, teachers mark as correct, she doesn't need to highlight to teachers.
When I was still puzzling, my husband reminded me hiding bad things and being selfish are not acceptable in Di Zi Gui values. We certainly do not want our kids to be the top in class, but zero in honesty. Good moral behaviour is thousand times better than good result.
Last night, I went to talk to April and put my arm around her. We both sitting on her bed, she lean on me. First, I praised her for finding the coin and passing it the teacher. I told her whatever things that she has found in her school, she mustn't bring home, instead she must immediately put it to Lost And Found folder, or give it to teachers. Second, I want her to be honest and truthful, be it exercise lessons or exams, if she spots any mistake in marking, she must inform teachers. She nodded with a grin on her face.
To Inspired Momx1, it is very good that Ian is so honest.
人在做，天在看。(Who can help me translating this in good English?)