Husbands go out when unattended

13:12 Yannie 27 Comments

Wednesday, I went straight to the gym after work, as I had other appointment later in the evening. 

I met a few of my gym buddies there. They were finished their work in the office, in the school and in the shop too. The last two men went off, and left all of us ladies above 40s exercising our body and mouth at the same time. Most women are talkative, no? lol!

While I was running at the speed of 8km/h, the flamboyant one talked about an interesting topic on specifically husband and wife, which made all other ladies laugh out loud and almost forget about their workout, including yours truly.

This flamboyant one is actually an open minded, funny, out spoken, bold, stylish, English-educated, early 50s working lady. I didn’t meet her often, but each time I met her, I enjoyed our talk very much. She loves uplifting people.

I really like what she said on last Wednesday evening.

She said,
  1.  The wife is always different from the mistress.
  2.  The wife can’t do what the mistress does to the husband.
  3.  When the wife becomes other men’s Mistress, the wife can do better than the wife’s husband’s mistress.

She asked us whether we understood the message behind these points.

My answer to her is “The wife must do what the mistress does to the husband.”

The teacher ran on the treadmill next to mine said, “You should have told me these 20 years ago, then I wouldn’t need to go through the divorce.”

Before she left the gym, she said to all of us, “Ladies, don’t take your man for granted, be more attentive to him, remember to hug and kiss him before he leaves home for work. “
By the way, her husband had passed away a few years ago.

This quote is so true, which I steal from Anay TM's blog
 "Husbands are like fires. They go out when unattended."


27 comments:

  1. Once they have changed, they will never be the same again.

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    1. "They" here are Husbands or Wives? Everyone too, once changed, will never be the same.

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  2. Fulamak!!!

    The last line made me jolt from my chair!

    No wonder you liked this line and I was wondering................
    cos Jin Jin is such a shining example for me to respect.

    So what experience that prompted your careful choice of quotes, I wondered on??
    Seems like it had actually happened to 1-2 from your gang of aunties!
    It is actually very very true with my 2 siblings being divorced
    besides my many-many other friends too!! 99.99% were 3rd parties.

    Now on lighter note, I think your gym sistas got the most firmed & toned mouths
    from their yakking and laughing exercises! Laughter also exercise the hearts
    by removing stress!! This does not apply to you cos you ran up and down hills
    non stop to look like a pink panther today. Wakakakaka

    Have a good weekend!

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    1. First of all, I love my family very much. I am not a perfect wife or mother. I am learning to be a better person. I appreciate friends' advice and kind thoughts. I avoid dramas and negative thoughts.

      You are right, while listening to them, I am able to continue my run without falling out of treadmill. Hehehe!

      I write down this conversation as I want it to be a reminder for myself.

      "Don't take your man for granted, be more attentive to him..."

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  3. hahaha.. no wonder Yannie enjoys going to the gym so much that she doesn't mind going there everyday.. besides exercising the body, she actually exercises her mouth and this post tells us that place is rather gossipy especially when all men left and the gym is occupied by the ladies, especially married ladies in their 40s.. sure got lots of things to talk about, and i think married ladies are even more open-minded and do not mind sharing their secrets with other women..

    so the flamboyant one actually shares a lot of stories and experiences with you all huh?? and it's very true also lah, WIFE and MISTRESS of course are very different.. there are things that one will not be able to do like the other.. but i am not married, so difficult to give any comments on this lah.. one thing i am sure is that, Yannie has got one good man at home, and she doesn't have to worry about it.. or probably Yannie is actually doing what she told the flamboyant?? she will sometimes act like a mistress and give JJ shyiok shyiok, hahaha~~

    both the teacher and the flamboyant have lost their husbands, probably that is what taught them to be more witty about the relationship between a husband and wife.. but then "Husbands are like fires. They go out when unattended."?? hmmm, that is something to ponder about~~ :)

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    1. SK is so pandai analyzing us auntie above 40s. Kekeke!
      So far, Jin Jin is a good man, I respect him very much. Therefore, Yannie has to learn to be a good wife/mistress to him. lol!

      I enjoy going to gym as we have build a good connection there. Talking to women who aged more than me always make my jaw drop. They taught me lots of things actually.

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  4. Love shows through actions, not sweet talk only...but both would be important to keep the fire burning. These days, not just one way street - husbands must also do the same for the wives. It works both ways - give and take.

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    1. You are absolutely right, give and take, mutual respect and common interest are very essential in a marriage. Thanks for your kind thoughts, Arthur.

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  5. If husbands are like fire, then I'll keep mine away from the FAN. Geddit, geddit? Unwanted 'fans' will cause trouble.

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    1. Hahaha! Merryn has no issue at all, Merryn is always looking young, pretty and sexy. Now Merryn can bake all sorts of cakes with rice cooker, all these advantages of you can put all sweet young things into back pockets.

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    1. No deep la! Only Mamarazzi is very simple minded, but I know Mamarazzi never take Kaldip for granted, right?

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  7. Interesting post.. I agree with most of the points here.. Men...Must keep them busy, else, they stray.. Temptations are everywhere, we can't control sometimes, but just pray and have faith, and make sure they don't have too much money, hehe.. Really, when they have more money, they badan gatal liao..

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    1. Princess Ribbon, your make sense here. Men being men, haiz! Anyway, women must know how to love themselves more too. We have to be appreciative if our men are good.

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  8. this is really interesting Yannie.. although I do not have a wife yet.. I have seen so many couples who have been though in such difficult stage... l agree with Princess Ribbon.. temptations are always there and some can be very irresistible for men.... but if the love and the marriage prevails, I'm sure these men will manage to refrain themselves from those temptations

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    1. Hahah! Blue, you are still long way to go. Enjoy and have fun. I hope you are a good husband in future.

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  9. That's why my auntie is always keeping a tight look on my uncle

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    1. Hahaha! Lol! This isn't an easy job eh!

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  10. What I can conclude is that those married aunties in their 40s are all very scary. If I find a gf, must make sure she does not have such friends. Hahahaha! XD

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    1. No, you should not have worried of that, aunties will teach your gf to be a good wife and at the same time a good mistress to you.

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    2. I agree with Yannie said here in reply to you.

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  11. There is a saying .... "When he lies down in the grave, then only he is considered your husband".... hahahaha... cos in the midst of a marriage, men can always be swayed elsewhere.. :)

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    1. Right Claire, this is wise women said. Some said in 100 men, 99 of them are hamsap, 1 is not hamsap, but something wrong, Kekekek!

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    1. SP, so glad to see you dropping by. Mistress does what a mistress should do. You should know better than me, right?

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    2. Kukubird wife need to read this post too!!!!!!! Hoi, go buy numbers today on his return!! He likes to shock us.

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  13. When women get together, sure lots of things to chat one, haha!

    Always cannot compare wife to mistress, hehe~

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